Thursday, May 17, 2012

The Hungry Man and Mass

A week ago Wednesday, I had a 9:00-12:00 meeting at headquarters that I hoped would not last all the way until noon, since noon is the time of Mass at the little chapel near my office, about twenty minutes from headquarters. I squirmed as one hour turned into two. After all, I don't sit still readily, so these three-hour meetings, of which I have had many recently, are killers. Then, two hours rolled over into the start of the third hour. 11:00, 11:10, 11:15 ticked by. It seemed like all we were doing at that point was wrapping up AND wrapping up AND wrapping up. Of course, I could not sneak out of the meeting. I was supposed to be leading it! However, I was working together with our Human Resources folks, and, of course, I could not ride ramshod over their input. So, we continued to wrap up. 11:20, 11: 25. At that point, I just assumed I would not make Mass and starting to plan on lunch over the noon hour, followed, sigh!, by another 3-hour meeting from 1:00 - 4:00.

Right before 11:30, though, we finished our work. Yes! Not only would I be able to catch Mass, but I would be able to do a quick drive-through McDonald's to pick up lunch. Yippee! It was going to be a better day than I had imagined.

So, I headed to my nearby car, hopped in, and took off. As I came to the intersection by McDonald's, there was a man holding a sign, asking for help. Oh, oh! I knew I had no cash in my wallet. So, I looked around the car. Nothing laying around there, either -- not even the spare McDonald's gift card that I usually keep on hand. I did not remember giving out the last one, but apparently I had. Hm...

Talking myself into thinking that I had no way to help (which, of course, I did; I could have invited the man into McDonald's and paid with a credit card, which is how I planned to pay for  my own meal), I drove into line at the drive-through, ordered, and started to drive away when I noticed the man was still there. Now, I seemed to have a dilemma, and I was aware that I did have options: (1) give the man my lunch (but he probably would not like it -- I never get anything except meat on my hamburger -- no fixings and no dressings -- and that would not be very filling for him); (2) go to Mass and ignore the man; (3) go back and get a gift card (probably would take too long, having to wait through line and all); or (4) invite the man in and blow off Mass.

Mass or man? The verse where we are told that what we do "for the least" among us is what we do for Jesus kept coming to mind. Was I being given some direction? I took a step back and looked at the real choices: (1) do something for myself -- going to Mass was at some level for me, to allow me the opportunity to worship, to continue to develop my relationship with God, or (2) do something for God -- feed one of His children. Seeing it in that light made everything clear. So much for Mass, I thought, and headed toward the man. When I reached him, I explained that I had no cash on me but would be happy to take him inside and buy him a meal. He responded that he was not really hungry at the moment but that he would love to be able to eat later and would appreciate a gift card. OK, that would be option #3.

I headed back to McDonald's, parked, and walked inside. Amazingly, there was no one in line. I quickly purchased a gift card, returned to the car, and handed it to the man.

Happy that I had done what seemed to be the right thing but somewhat saddened at the loss of opportunity to attend Mass ("daily" Mass is offered only twice a week at this chapel, and it is the only church near where I work), I headed back to my office. As I drove, I noticed the time: 11:48. Not quite enough time to make it all the way back, or was it? As I came to the intersection where I needed to go straight to the chapel or make a left to my office, I looked at the clock in the car: 11:58. How could that be? It was like time had stood still for for a few minutes. Since the intersection is only a minute or two from the chapel, I drove straight, arriving at the chapel exactly at noon.

Sometimes discernment comes slowly, but when it is right, it is obvious. And, often, I have found, when right, it gets rewarded. After all, I got both options: helping a child of God (something for God) and attending Mass (something for me). Lunch never tasted so good! 

Saturday, May 12, 2012

7 Quick Takes Friday #74


See more 7 Quick Takes Friday contributions at Jennifer Fulwiler's Conversion Diary.

Work continues to be crazy busy, and as I write this I am sitting in military lodging in Prague, Czechoslovkia, where I am attending a conference. Perhaps I will start with that and work backward through some of the more interesting ways in which I have spent my days and filled my mind since the last 7 Quick Takes.

1. I have been fortunate enough to see Prague twice. The first time was great: 1990 on May 1, the 45th anniversary of the freeing of Czechoslovakia in WWII. There was no hotel space, and my contact at the US Embassy forgot to reserve me a room. I found a hotel with one room for one night, and for the next week, I had to change rooms each day. The maids helped, and my Czech improved, learning room and moving words. I came there with a Czech teacher from Germany and visited his family the first day, and my Czech improved, learning kitchen talk. I ran around town, visiting landmarks, including this bridge, Karluv most (Charles Bridge, pictured here), with the friend of a Czech instructor who worked for me at the time and spending evenings at her house, listening to recordings of Czech political jokes which she would not move on from until I understood each joke, and, since she, like the others, spoke no English, my Czech improved, learning geography, landmark, tourist, history, metro, bus, walking directions, and political words. My job that week was to get the State Publishing House to sell me the books used in schools so that I could use them with Czech students in the USA. The interpreter was called away right after our talks started, and I was left with 12 officials, speaking only Czech, and my Czech improved, learning educational, publishing, and negotiation words -- and the officials were so impressed with my efforts that they gave me a copy of every single book used in the schools for free and transported them to the embassy for me so that they could be sent back to the States for me. I remember a lot from the last visit, especially the Soviet veneer over the town. The veneer is gone now, in the people, the culture, the look. It is like an old European town come alive, as seen from the view outside my window. A good place to visit!

2. My 20th Language. That is the title of a book I have begun writing just recently. I had been writing Babel No More by Michael Erard (anyone familiar with this book), who talks about hyperpolyglots, which he defines as someone who knows more than six languages. He is fascinated by how they learn languages, and the book is based on his interviews with them or, in the case of the deceased, with researching records about them and, where available, by them. It is an interesting book in some respects. However, most of the hyperpolyglots have learned languages for the sake of studying the language itself. The majority have not used the languages for work, travel, or purposes of interacting with native speakers. Those who have are interesting indeed. I did not find the book helpful, however, for language learners because the author has focused on what is different or unusual about each of the learners, whereas most people trying to learn a foreign language, like me, are not unusual at all. Since with all my travels I have had to learn a number of languages -- 19 that I have formally studied to date, although there are about 60 I can read and understand -- I have found shortcuts and ways to make language learning more rapid and successful. In fact, before coming to Prague the first time I spent only 52 hours in study, yet I was able to exist in Czech alone while staying in Prague, conducting negotiations, and having fun with the people of Prague. Needless to say, my Czech was much better upon return, and I felt comfortable having all sorts of discussions about comparative social phenomena with the Czechs in the US. So, now, I figure I might as well start another language, 19 being such an odd number. Before and during the learning of it, I intend to include useful information for language learners -- what actually might work for them and the real shortcuts I have found for learning and for remembering words, grammar, and sociolinguistic aspects of the language.


3. Speaking of books, my friend Omar Imady, Sufi poet from Syria, living in Jordan, where I met him, has written his first novel, The Gospel of Damascus. I don't think I am just being partial to Omar and his work to say that the book is very well written. Those who have read it really like it. It just came out April 1, and he is looking for people to review it. If anyone is interested in reviewing it and putting a review on line at Amazon or Barnes & Noble, please let me know (elizabeth.mahlou@gmail.com) because Omar is willing to send a free copy to any reviewer. Otherwise, if you are just interested in reading it, you can find it in the usual places, all the online bookstores and in some brick-and-mortar ones, too. Omar has also set up a web page about the book on Facebook. He also wrote a book earlier of Islamic short stories that has been quite popular with my friends. Even our priest used one of the stories in his homilies he was so taken by it. That book is called When You're Shoved from the Right, Look to Your Left: Metaphors of Islamic Humanism. And yet one more of his that is available in the United States and through the regular channels, for sure, at least, through the online bookstores is The Rise and Fall of Muslim Civil Society, an interesting read for anyone with an academic interest in the subject. I think the book is actually a revamping of his doctoral dissertation.


4. Well, I might as well stay on the topic of books and the Imady family. Omar's sister, Muna Imady, has also written a book, her first. It is called simply Syrian Folktales. The book is a delightful collection of fairy tales and recipes associated with the various regions of Syria. Reviewer comments that I have seen have all been positive. The only negative thing I have read -- and it has been repeated by several of the reviewers -- is that the book is too short. They liked it so much that they wanted more. Unfortunately, there is a limited number of provinces in Syria, at least officially! If you are not familiar with Syria but have heard a lot about the country on the news, you might like to take a look at this book -- I think there are already used copies in circulation -- to get a different view from what the news media constantly supplies.

5. Well, what the heck. Since I have gone on and on about the Imady siblings and their books, I might as well share information about another Imady and her book: the mother. She has actually written two books. One is about her mother, who is an American who lived in Pallisades, New York. I read that book and as a testimonial to her mother, it is interesting. Far more fascinating, however, is Elaine Imady's own book, a memoir of her meeting and marrying Mohammed Imady while both were students at Columbia University, Road to Damascus. The marriage of Elaine and Mohammed is one of the only American-Syrian marriages I have known to work out, especially after the couple moved "home" to Syria. Elaine gives in-depth, emotionally touching reminiscences of her acculturation to Syrian society, assisted in great part by her acceptance into the Omady family by all its members. She does not bypass the difficult moments but tells how she was able to overcome them. Then, too, if you have read Omar's and Muna's books, it will be just sheer fun to learn about their childhoods from their mother. The book has been praised from many sources. It has been out for a couple of years now, but I don't think it is as well known in the USA as it is in the Middle East and Europe even though it is readily available in the US, especially through the online bookstores, as well as some brick-and-mortar ones (all can order it and get it pretty quickly).

6. I suppose I should provide an update on health. Things are so much in just a short time. A comment made by the doctor who released me from the hospital after concluding that there was nothing wrong with my heart was very helpful. He said that the MRI pictures taken showed a thickening of the esophagus and thought I should be taking Prilosac, which I am now doing. He did not know, however, that I have had a hiatal hernia for years, ever since Doah was born some 30-odd years ago. It seems that Doah was the cause of it. In any event, the hernia has slowly grown over time so that it is now rather large. Once I realized that the hernia might have been the problem, it became clear that the chest pains were from the hernia, not from the heart. The complicating factor was the seriously high blood pressure, which is now also under control, thanks to a change in medications. So, I am healthier than anyone thought, it appears, thank God!

7. And speaking of health, I have also been able to track down the source of my aching back on air travels. I would arrive in pain wherever I went, get better, then arrive home in pain. It was easy to blame it on my broken back since I did break my back (T-5 compression fracture) in 1980, but I should have realized that if the only time my broken back gave me problems was during air travel, then something connected with the air travel must be causing it. I usually get upgraded to first class, complimentary from United, since I travel so frequently on that airline. You would think that those extra-comfortable, large seats would be a wonderful way to travel, but some experimentation, including my current very long trip to Prague in which I was not upgraded, has shown that my back does not like the first class roomy seats. They are too big for me and do not provide adequate support to the T-5 area. I will have to figure out how to bring along some additional support because I enjoy the other amenities of first class. In the interim, it might just be that I am not first-class material, as stewardesses sometimes indicate they think when they try to send me to the back of the plane for the bathrooms there. (Happens so often that I think maybe I should start wearing high heels and lipstick -- not my style -- whenever I end up in first class!)

Wishing you all a GREAT weekend! (Mine started early since Prague is several hours ahead of the USA. Oh, I guess that means it will end early, too. Hm...)

Monday, May 7, 2012

Monday Morning Meditation #124

How did Monday morning arrive so quickly? Last week is still a blur. I spent the beginning of the week at home, as in the first day of the week. Then I was off and running, first via redeye  to a conference in Maryland that my boss asked me to attend in his stead, (He is on vacation. Mashaallah, as the Arabs say.), then on a more normal evening flight to Kentucky via the Nashville airport, returning very late Friday evening, as in arriving in San Francisco at midnight and then wending my way back to San Ignatio through empty roads. Nonetheless, it was good to be home! This weekend, though, was no less busy. I was helping a friend with the PR for his newly published novel -- took all day both days, except for some time squeezed out for Mass. (I will put up some information here as soon as I get a chance. It is an interesting book.)

This week, I continued to read Matthew 7. I think I shall be spending a lot of time on this particular chapter; it is so rich. The next set of verses are ones about which I have always have some question, so I will share my opinion and would love to hear the opinion of readers. Here are the verses; I am sure they are equally familiar to you, too:
“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 
For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened. 
“Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone?
10 Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake?
11 If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!
Reading: Matthew7:7-11


Meditation: I have seen people take these verses to mean that God will give you anything that you ask for. In practice, though, it seems that many people do not get what they ask for even if they ask for it repeatedly. The parallel to a parent responding to a child's request is helpful here. Clearly, if your child asks for something that is not good for him or her, you would not accede to the request. So, it makes sense that neither would God accede to a request that is not in our best interest. The most obvious example that comes to mind is when the kids in my catechism class say that God did not answer their prayer because they prayed for an A on a test but got a D. When I ask if they studied, they say no, they prayed instead. That one is pretty much a no-brainer, but what about the requests for health or for the stricken mother of a family of young children to live. When the latter kind of prayer appears unanswered, it causes confusion as to why we are told ask and we shall receive. (Of course, there are times that prayers are answered but we do not see the answer because we were expecting one thing, but God gave something better.)

In short, I have only partial answers for my religious education students -- and for myself although I am wont to assume that I am not smart enough to ask for what I should be asking and therefore God, being smarter than I, is likely to deflect and defer where appropriate. Actually, there is little I have personally asked for that has not been answered, often in a different and better way, nonetheless there have been times when the answer was not forthcoming or unclear, particularly when I was praying at the request of someone else for someone else; of course, I usually do not know all the details in these cases, so maybe I am unaware of what God has done, is doing, or did differently.

In any event, I would love to hear others' take on this.

Contemplation: That is far as I can go with you this Monday morning. I now retire to private prayer to praise God for knowing what we need even without our asking. I will, of course, also ask God to help me see where my prayers may have been answered differently than I expected, and I will repent for each time I have failed to ask because we are told to ask. As always,  I will thank God for all the petitions I have been granted; they have been many.

I will leave you now to your prayer and contemplation. First, though, I would like to bring to your attention a Monday morning prayer post that you might enjoy:

Fr. Austin Fleming, priest of the Archdiocese of Boston and pastor in Concord, Massachusetts, posts a prayer each Monday morning that he calls "Monday Morning Offering." I enjoy his prayers very much. I think you also will find them inspirational. He has graciously given me permission to include a link to his blog on my Monday Morning Meditation posts. (During the week, he also posts great homilies and other thoughtful discussions. I enjoy reading those, too, as do readers of this blog who have taken the stroll over to his blog.)

For additional inspiration throughout the week, I would point out two sets of blogs: (1) the list of devotional blogs on my sidebar and (2) my blogroll, where I am following a number of inspirational priests and writers about spiritual matters. I learn so very much from all these people. I highly recommend them to you.

Monday, April 30, 2012

Monday Morning Meditation #123

Just too, too busy to keep up with with much of anything these days. Spent most of last week in upstate New York at one of our offices there. (When I travel so constantly, I always appreciate opening a drawer in my hotel room and finding a Gideon Bible; it is very rare that there is not one if I am in a hotel in the United States. I wonder if the Gideons ever know how much their Bible distribution is appreciated -- at least by me.) One of the advantages to the upstate New York location was the opportunity to spend the little bit of off-time I had with my sister Katrina, whom I had not seen in four years. Since she lives more than an hour away from our office, she took time off from work and came and stayed with me in my hotel. Fun!

This week, I continued to read Matthew, stopping nearly immediately as I moved from chapter 6 to chapter 7. There was the exhortation that I sometimes find hard to follow:
1“Do not judge, or you too will be judged.
For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?
How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?  
You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
Reading: Matthew7: 1-5


Meditation:  I know that I am not the only one who has trouble following this urging. I guess it is human nature to want to judge others and to judge ourselves by comparing ourselves with others even though God does not compare us but judges us each according to our own behaviors and hearts. If it were not innate within us to judge, then I fear that our schooling, uprearing, and social environment would fill in that "gap" and lead us into a tendency to judge others. For me, it becomes even more difficult at work. As a supervisor, it is my job to judge the performance of others.

I do best when I remember every word of that last phrase: to judge the performance of others vis-a-vis performance standards for the given job. It is not up to me to judge behavior outside of job performance. It is not up to me to judge the goodness, worthiness, morality, or any other aspect of any other person, whether that person is an employee, colleague, friend, neighbor, or stranger. Still, inculcated habits are hard to break and expectations for judging one aspect of a person's professional life are hard to keep from spreading to the rest of that person's professional or personal life.

One thing that helps me is to remind myself that each and every person is a child of God and that what that individual does or does not do, thinks or does not think, says or does not say is between that person and God and not any of my business. My business is what I do, think, and say, and that is between God and me. It also helps occasionally to assess my own inventory of faults -- what others could judge negatively about me. That inventory helps me to be more accepting of what I might otherwise consider the shortcomings of others.

Contemplation: That is far as I can go with you this Monday morning. I now retire to private prayer to praise God for knowing that we need to be counseled about not judging others and for sending Jesus to tell us that among other things we need to know. I will, of course, also ask God to help me to withhold my judgment and to look upon others with kindness and tolerance, and I will repent for each time I have failed to do that. As always,  I will thank God for giving me the continuing opportunity to improve my behavior in this respect.

I will leave you now to your prayer and contemplation. First, though, I would like to bring to your attention a Monday morning prayer post that you might enjoy:

Fr. Austin Fleming, priest of the Archdiocese of Boston and pastor in Concord, Massachusetts, posts a prayer each Monday morning that he calls "Monday Morning Offering." I enjoy his prayers very much. I think you also will find them inspirational. He has graciously given me permission to include a link to his blog on my Monday Morning Meditation posts. (During the week, he also posts great homilies and other thoughtful discussions. I enjoy reading those, too, as do readers of this blog who have taken the stroll over to his blog.)

For additional inspiration throughout the week, I would point out two sets of blogs: (1) the list of devotional blogs on my sidebar and (2) my blogroll, where I am following a number of inspirational priests and writers about spiritual matters. I learn so very much from all these people. I highly recommend them to you.

Monday, April 23, 2012

Monday Morning Meditation #122: Do Not Babble in Prayer As the Pagans Do

How can the weeks pass so quickly??! Already another week has gone by, and it seems as if last week just started. Then I think, oh, right, there was a lot that happened last week, including trips to Sacramento and North Carolina. Perhaps that is why the weeks seem to pass so quickly. I am never in the same place for more than a couple of days in a row. With all this traveling, one thing for which I am very grateful is those Bibles that the Gideons place in hotel rooms across the country. I, for one, use them.

This week, I continued to read Matthew, but I did not make it very far because Chapter 6 is so very rich, including the relation of how Jesus gave the Lord's Prayer to us. It was not the Lord's Prayer that drew my attention, however. It was the very short verse 7: "When you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words."

Reading: Matthew 6:7


Meditation:  While there are times that I do find myself "babbling," those times of prayer that I enjoy the most are the times when no words are used at all. I love the quiet walking together with God, as well as quiet periods of just sitting side by side. No words are really needed for very deep, intense, joyful, and inspirational communication. Perhaps that is why we are told not to go on and on. If we never stop talking, when can we ever hear what God has to say to us?

Contemplation: That is far as I can go with you this Monday morning. I now retire to private prayer to praise God for all the information He has passed to us through Jesus and His prophets so that we better understand Him and know better how to communicate with Him. I will, of course, also ask God to help me to hold my tongue, and I will repent for each time I have talked too much and failed to listen to what God would have me hear. As always,  I will thank God for prayer, for wanting us to communicate with Him, and for wanting to communicate with us.

I will leave you now to your prayer and contemplation. First, though, I would like to bring to your attention a Monday morning prayer post that you might enjoy:

Fr. Austin Fleming, priest of the Archdiocese of Boston and pastor in Concord, Massachusetts, posts a prayer each Monday morning that he calls "Monday Morning Offering." I enjoy his prayers very much. I think you also will find them inspirational. He has graciously given me permission to include a link to his blog on my Monday Morning Meditation posts. (During the week, he also posts great homilies and other thoughtful discussions. I enjoy reading those, too, as do readers of this blog who have taken the stroll over to his blog.)

For additional inspiration throughout the week, I would point out two sets of blogs: (1) the list of devotional blogs on my sidebar and (2) my blogroll, where I am following a number of inspirational priests and writers about spiritual matters. I learn so very much from all these people. I highly recommend them to you.

Friday, April 20, 2012

7 Quick Takes Friday #73



See more 7 Quick Takes Friday contributions at Jennifer Fulwiler's Conversion Diary.

Work has been so crazy this past week and month -- the reason I have missed posting quick takes for a while -- that I would not know where to begin to describe any of it. In one week, I made 8 trips from my office to our headquarters -- 160 miles of extra driving this week. I started to feel like a human yo-yo, but quickly that changed, and I ended up on plane after plane. Not so sure that has been an improvement, but you decide!

1. Ukraine. Over Easter, I ended up in Ukraine on a business trip. I was not about to miss Palm Sunday, however, and as a result I ended up attending Mass at Pokrovskyj sobor (Intercession Cathedral), the oldest cathedral in Ukraine. (The cathedral is on a territory/cloister that includes several buildings, now used for religious purposes, including one as the residence for the Kharkiv bishop; it was originally built by the Cossacks more than three hundred years ago as a fortress and later used as an education facility.) That was an interesting experience. The most interesting part was the public confessions. Without confession, one was not allowed to take communion. Although I could probably have managed the linguistic task (Russian) for confession, I was not up to the emotional (public) task, so I simply enjoyed the Mass without taking communion.

2. As I mentioned in the Monday Morning Meditation earlier this week, no sooner had I arrived back home than I ended up in the hospital for two days. I don't really know why, and the doctors cannot tell me what happened, let alone why it happened. For some reason, in the middle of the night, my blood pressure shot up to 208/116, waking me up. (That's something else I don't know: why I wake up when my blood pressure soars.) I finally got back to sleep, and when I awoke a couple of hours later, my BP was down to 202/100. So, off I went to work, in spite of some minor chest pains. However, when I had difficulty climbing the one set of steps to my office, my admin assistant and my deputy dragged me off to the emergency room, where doctors were not impressed with the drop in blood pressure. Some aspirin and nitro later, the BP was down to 115/56, but the docs admitted me nonetheless. After two days of deciding that there really was nothing to be done to me. Because of a node in my left ventricle, neither EKG nor stress tests can be read with any reliability, so they released me, gave me my records, and told me to see if my GP could make any sense of what happened. As they say, medicine is not a science, it is an art. And some days, it is just plain a guess!

3. I got out of the hospital just in time to hop on over to Sacramento for my granddaughter Nikolina's birthday. She had a great time at her party at Chick-Fil-A, where she loves the cow. we all got our pictures taken with the cow. Then the cow brought her birthday cupcakes, which she also loved. Following our time at the restaurant, we went to Shane's house for the cake and gifts. It seemed that Nikolina had lots of fun with Grandpa Andreas, Grandpa Donnie, and Grandma Beth, brother Nathaniel, and parents.

4. The weekend passed all too quickly. Soon we were home from Nikolina's party, and I was on a plane for North Carolina for quality checks on several of our distant branches there and something we call a reverse evaluation. All my employees love the reverse evaluation. It gives them the opportunity to rate their bosses and let the organization know how its policies help them do their job and, in some cases, hinder them from doing their job. Of course, we want to take all the steps possible to "fix" any problems that contribute to the latter -- and that contribute to employee unhappiness. We had a wonderfully active and professional group this year -- sometimes, it is difficult for employees to provide this kind of information publicly even though all the input is collected anonymously and a "messenger" is selected to do the public presentation. It was an ideal session for videotaping -- fortunately, because we had chosen this one to videotape in order to have something to show to future employees and managers so that they know what to expect.

5. One of the perks of traveling as I have been doing is getting to know the regional directors. Almost always there is some dinnertime relaxation planned. Often, it is at restaurants, but just as often one or another director will invite me and anyone who is accompanying me to his or her home. I had two such dinners this past week. One was more enjoyable than most. It involved playing legos with the two children. When I arrived, the children brought out their toys and elicited my assistance in their construction endeavors, much to the chagrin of their parents -- but to my delight. Our game-playing freed their dad to grill the yummy dinner that we later ate and their mommy to help him get ready since the dinner was an impromptu decision.

6. One pleasant interlude was a donor breakfast thrown by the local aquarium, to which I contribute regularly. They have wonderful exhibits and have been building a number of imaginative displays for children. Those displays don't come cheap, and I am happy to contribute a few dollars because the cause is good. In return for those dollars, the aquarium served us all a continental breakfast early in the morning and allowed us to peruse the new exhibits in a leisurely way for two hours before opening their doors to the hordes. We really liked the new jelly fish exhibit; it was quite artistically done. Donnie said, "We must do this again!" Agreed!

7. Fortunately, there have been spiritual oases in all the bedlam of recent days. In addition to the Mass in Ukraine, I met with my spiritual director, a relief since I had missed the previous month because of travel obligations. We had so much to talk about. I think she is probably unaware of the joy I derive from these sessions where we share experiences, all in the presence of God and, for the most part, aware of that presence. That same day, I also gave a public presentation at a local church group; the presentation was very well accepted, and we ended up sharing experiences with God and some of the miracles that various members of our group have experienced. Doah has decided that he wants to be baptized, so I am now working toward a date for that with our priest. This is a kind of busyness that is energizing and relaxing at the same time.

And that is what I wish for you: an energizing AND relaxing weekend.